What is love to me?
Its not just about feelings, its not something that comes and goes? it is an ART, its the most important art that we should be learning through the course of our lifes.
I've had three relationships in the pass, i've experience what people call it "falling in love"even got to a point that i cant lose them, saying how much i love them that it wont change etc etc?? well........look at it now?
Is love just about feelings(strong)? As we know feelings can come and go.
We need to understand why we have these feelings? and why they change, alot people nowa days including myself, when they have these feelings, they will appriciate it, when its gone, you lose interest or another words "i don't love him/her anymore.
As time passes, you learn from your mistakes and problems you go through(if you are willing to learn that is) you start to pick up new things or you can call it "knowledge". and that is what i believe love is.
Love is an art, an art that is learnt through the same way as you learn with any art, which requires
knowledge and action.
knowledge and action.
People in our culture rarely learns this art, instead they put most of there time in learning how to earn more money and fame so at the end of the day they lack the knowledge to understand a person which soon courses problems in relating to eachother.
It is something we must practice and to understand like for example if i was to learn kung fu, i must first learn the basic knowledge and foundation of it, and then gradually move up. When i fail, i will learn from my mistakes and then i'll give it time until i master it, but you can only master it, if you have the disipline, concentration and patience, just like how we develope our love for others.
If you say you love your gf, you must accept who they are and to constantly develope your love for them, its the same as developing your love for yourself, you will find that it is hard because we all have strong points and bad points, but you must learn to accept the bad and to act decisively to change them. Its the same attitude you should have towards everyone you know. Love is a universal feeling, not just something you have for your bf/gf, friend to friend is love, parents and there children is love, looking after yourself is love, If you say you will only love your gf/bf, that is not love? that form of thinking is selfish, If i love my girlfirend, i also love everybody including myself in order to love and to be loved in return.
So how do we learn to love? simple.....practice? It is a persoanlly experience which everyone can only have by and for themselfs.
There is never an end in learning love, thats the beauty of it, but to gain greater love for yourself and others around you.
by Kevin Yu
Nice words i've picked up for you to think about
"To love somebody is not just a strong feeling - it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise"
"The love for my own self is inseparably connected with the love for any other being"
"Love is an activity, not a passive effect; it is a "standing in," "not a "falling for".
"Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love"
